Epic Excitement and courageous actions.

Courage with His help

We posted last week about our blessed news.  What I didn't tell you was the reaction of our Ward (LDS church congregation) earlier that day.  
A few people knew ahead of time and were very careful to keep our secret.  It wasn't that we didn't want to share the news, but until things felt like they were progressing with the family and the expectant parents, we didn't feel comfortable sharing.  We have been through this twice before.  The first time was many years ago, early in our marriage.  We were connected to a friend of a friend who's foster son and girl friend were looking to place their baby through private adoption.  At the time Berrett felt very unsure of this situation, but because of his great love for me, he let me move forward.  We begin to email each other and I began to dream of that little baby.  They lived in southern Utah and we made a special trip over our anniversary weekend to visit.  We met up with them for lunch and talked for about 2 hours.  They tell you in the adoption classes that YOU KNOW when its right and YOU KNOW when its wrong.  This one felt wrong.  Berrett let me be quiet for a time after we met up and then lovingly told me, "you know this isn't our baby?"  I knew in my heart he was right but had to cry it out for a bit before I could admit it.  I will admit to this day I think about that baby girl.  She would be 12 in July.  Her parents decided to marry and raise her.  I pray she is happy and healthy.
Then last year we were approached by someone we know who was thinking about placement.  We did pray about it and received the answer "go ahead, but remember she has her agency."   I won't go into that situation much, except to say that there were warning signs that we ignored.  She had little or no family support about the adoption and she resisted meeting with the case workers at LDS family services.  She became very ill through the last few months of her pregnancy and I wonder now if it wasn't her mind telling her body to reject the idea of adoption.  For some women it is truly not an option.  I do understand that.  Once again we cried, we grieved for that dream we had almost seen coming true.
Now we are doing this again.  This time feels different.  The expectant mom has family support, she is keeping her appointments with the case workers.  There has been open communication between her family and Berrett and I.  We are hopeful but cautious!!  She still has her agency as well.  That baby is hers until she says it isn't and signs the papers.  Still her mother encouraged us to share the news with family and friends.  when we told our families week's ago, they cried, they hugged us and we had nieces and nephews jumping up and down.
When we told our Ward "family" there were buckets of tears, tons of hugs and handshakes and epic excitement.  We now have over 150 members of the congregation praying for us and for the expectant family.  They have been praying for us the whole time we have been on this adoption journey, but now their prayers are more specific.  What is remarkable to me is they truly care about our expectant mom as well.  They have expressed what great courage she must have to make such a choice.  We agree.  "J" is (what I will call her in the blogging world) very courageous to make this decision.  Her family is as well.  They know what it is to be grandparents and aunts and uncles, so they must have breaking hearts to think of this little one not being raised in their family. They also have very good reasons to make this choice.  We pray that the Lord comforts them and blesses them for it.  We pray for J, her baby and her family every day.  I find myself in quiet moments sending a prayer for her multiple times a day.  How can you love someone so much that you hardly know?  I think about the atonement and how the Savior stepped in and carried all our sin, all our grief and all our pain, so we could be with Him and Heavenly Father.  He made it possible for the children of our Heavenly Father to be Eternal families.  Now J is going through pain of her own.  She is giving this great gift to us and her own pain and suffering must be overwhelming.  She may choose to make it possible for that little girl to have a Eternal family.  It is still her choice.  It was still the Saviors choice to accept as well.  I pay tribute to her great courage and great love for her unborn baby girl.  If she chooses us to parent her baby, we promise to love her and raise her to be as loving and as courageous!! We also want her to know of the great network of family and friends who will be there to help us care for her.  Grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins.  She will have a great Bishop, great primary teachers and YW leaders.  She is loved by so many long before she is even here!!  We hope to see you soon, Little Maddi. We are excited to share in your life!!

J consider yourself hugged!!!

"Hope is the abiding trust that Heavenly Father fulfills His promises."

I believe it was about a year ago that I heard a brother in our ward share this quote in a talk in Sacrament.  I quickly jotted it down because I had  often felt like I was losing hope for the promises I wanted fulfilled. The hope that Berrett and I would some day be parents.
Well we have had our up's and down's and I have often picked up that piece of paper and read it and silently asked Heavenly Father to help me to keep my hope alive and to believe He would fulfill His promises.
I can tell you today He keeps His promises!! A expectant mom and her parents and family have chosen us to adopt her baby girl.
We want to protect her privacy and the privacy of our future daughter so we won't be sharing very many details.  She is due in late June, early July and we are very excited!
We ask you our friends and family to pray for her, to pray for the father and their families.  Pray that they may be comforted and at peace with their decision.  Please pray that they have all that they stand in need of at this great time of change.  Also please pray that the Lord will pour out blessings on their heads for sharing this beautiful gift with us. Please pray for us as well.  Adoption is costly and we will have many changes to make in our lives as well.  I will say it again though, "Hope is the abiding trust that Heavenly Father fulfills His Promises."  I KNOW He does.

If I keep the commandments I can live with Heavenly Father again.

It's my turn to do Sharing Time in Primary this week.  We are talking about keeping the commandments.
I love to use pictures, games or object lesson's to make it entertaining, memorable and easy to understand.
I was reading back through previous "Friend" magazines and came across this.

I loved the concept...https://www.lds.org/friend/1994/04/sharing-time-keep-the-commandments?lang=eng
but needed it large enough for the whole primary.  I also didn't have the time to color it as well. So I made my own.

our boat... or life on earth

Pictures of the commandments... please realize that they include some modern ones from today's prophets as well as the original 10 commandments.

Keep the commandments anchor

Commandment bubbles or links with the script to match the pictures.

  I am going to start the same way the Sharing time lesson is laid out.  Writing the sentence on the board and having the kids guess the song while the pianist plays it.  Then I intend to share the history of the song as outlined in the above link.
I am going to ask the children if they have ever been in a boat on the water and talk about how the waves can make the boat move and be unsteady.
The circles with the words in them will be links from the boat to the anchor.  I will have the children throw the anchor over the back and I will clip one of the pictures to it.  As they bring it up we will match it to the scripted bubbles or links in the chain. We will talk about how obeying the commandments can anchor us from the temptations of life.  As we keep those commandments it will help us to return to live with Heavenly Father.

My ship on the ocean with the word bubbles and anchor and some funny little fish watching.

I also included some funny little fish and want to point out that times we don't know who is watching us and what we can teach them by being a good example After all the pictures have been matched, I will tie the anchor at the bottom and talk about how the ship is now secure. I will end by bearing testimony of the peace I feel when I obey the commandments and how they have protected me from temptation.  I am thinking I might focus on scripture study and talk about the song "Scripture Power."
Since this is just a plan in the works, I will have to let you know how it goes.

Well... it worked great!! Really a fun lesson!!

Count your many blessings....

I will admit that when it comes to infertility it can be difficult to find ray's of hope in your life. For instance-at the moment my first counseler in primary had her 2nd baby in January. My 2nd counseler is expecting her first in May. Our chorister is expecting in Msy- our activity day leader is expecting in May. I am surrounded by women who have given birth or who are expecting! In the past I have let myself become bitter at every announcement. And yet the only person I hurt was me!!! By withdrawing from those around me who have reason to rejoice I lose the chance to share their joy and their friendship. We don't know the stories behind these blessed events. One of my dearest friends has two children and yet has experienced many miscarriages. I sat and cried with her recently over her latest one. I learn about women of great strength when I let myself be a part of their joy or pain. My friend lost her baby later in a pregnancy the she had ever had before. She is grieving and yet when I called her for some advise and comfort about a situation I was in she put aside her pain and gave me some of the best words of advise and comfort. My 2nd counseler has struggled this entire pregnancy with morning-noon-and night sickness!!! And yet she withstands it because she wants to be a mom! Adoption has its struggles. Waiting- worrying about the expectant mom- praying this time it will all work out. But no matter how they get here each child is a joy!! I decided long ago I could choose pain or I could choose joy. So bring on the birth announcements- bring on the baby showers- I choose to count my blessings and to live with joy!!!!

We have been home from our Disneyland trip a week now! We had a great time with Linda and Tracey!! If you haven't been to California Adventure in a while it is now worth it!! Cars land alone is SO FUN!!! It has changed the whole feel of the park!! I will post more pictures eventually!!

Blessed....

Today I feel very blessed.  Although I still long for our child, I feel so blessed to have first, Declan and now Jayden in our lives.  There is something about feeding, changing, cuddling and playing with a baby that helps your love to grow.  I miss them when they are not around, I hurt for them when I hear they are sick, or have hurt them selves.  I guess with little boys, bumps and bruises are parr for the course!!
When Jayden smiles at me, when Declan climbs into my lap for a cuddle.  Even when they are both having melt downs, at the same time.. I feel blessed.  I have two babies in my life, that I get to watch grow, and change.  I feel their love and although I could never replace their mom's. I do know they love me too!!

Heavenly Father knew how empty my arms felt and he helped me to fill them, and still get a decent nights sleep!! LOL!! I bet Declan and Jayden's mom wish for a little extra sleep!!

The best oven fries!!

I love to cook, although tending two little ones under 2 some times makes it difficult!! My sis told me about these yummy burgers you can buy at Walmart. They are in the frozen meat section. They have bacon and cheddar mixed in them. I took out the garbage already but I think they were called black angus bacon and aged cheddar burgers. They come 6 in a box and you cook them from frozen. They are about 6 or 7 bucks at my Walmart. Very good and they are easy!! I wanted oven fries with my burger, and I had pinned a method on Pinterest that I pinned. You take 3 or 4 potatoes peeled. Slice them into wedges about the size of your ring finger. Soak them in Hot water for 10 to 20 min. Heat the oven to 475 F. Meanwhile line a baking sheet with foil, using a pastry brush or even some paper towels, liberally oil the pan with about 3 to 4 TBS of canola oil. Sprinkle the oiled pan with Sea salt, pepper and what ever other seasonings you like. I added paprika. Dry the potatoes well and toss them in a bowl with about 2 TBS of oil. Place them on baking sheet in a single layer. Cover the sheet with foil, or if you used it all to line the sheet( I did), with another baking sheet. Cook for 5 minutes and then uncover. Bake 10 to 15 minutes, turn them with tongs or a spatula, and bake 10 to 15 more till golden brown, Drain on paper towels and sprinkle with just a little more seasoning. They taste like you deep fried them but you don't use as much oil. I doubt they are any healthier, but less messy for sure!!